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joy a good degree of marital bliss. But, the fly in the ointment is always there, marring an otherwise satisfactory relationship. There are many TV's who live in apparent harmony with their mates: She tol- erates - he compromises. Still, in most cases of marital harmony, the wife wishes her husband were not a TV. Seldom, if ever, do you find a wife who actually believes TVism to be an asset. She is more likely to think of it as the least objectionable of several possible handicaps such as gambling, drink- ing, unfaithfulness, etc..Other wives however and they have told me so would rather have a drinking husband, or a gambling husband, or even an occassional episode of unfaithfulness, rather than see him wear- ing lipstick, high heels and a skirt. Most of the time she will not tell him exactly what she feels be- cause it is important to her to keep him happy, but in reality she is also deceiving him when it comes to sharing with him her real feelings. So we find a case of double deception even in the best of cases. He will express his femininity in her presence, but only up to a point. Notice the difference (subtle difference) in his behaviour when he is dressed at a TV party and the wife is present, and his behaviour when she is not present. In the latter case he is usually more likely to "let go" as far as expressing his femininity. He does not have to maintain that ever present trace of masculinity which he feels he must hold on to in her presence. He is secretly afraid that showing too much femininity will rub her the wrong way.

But let me clarify this a bit before the wives who read this column begin to get all sorts of dis- turbing ideas. Let us admit that the secret fear of most TV wives is the possibility that there might be just a wee bit of homosexuality in her husband, homo- sexuality that might, just might, flare up in some unforeseen situation in which he is dressed up. Be- sides this fear, there's also the one related to the possibility that the TV husband--thirsty for feminine understanding, like all TV's - might run into some